Lauren Sapala

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  • Are INFJs Scared of Power?

    Are INFJs Scared of Power?

    Why is “power” such a loaded word for INFJ personality types? And why do INFJ personality types feel so uncomfortable having power, wielding power, or stepping into their own power? This is because power issues are quite common for INFJ personality types. One of the INFJ personality type’s biggest struggles in life is that they are terrified of their own power. The INFJ personality type must deal with this issue and face it head on, if they want to live their best life.

    INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are two types that feel very uncomfortable with power. These two types tend to equate “power” with “authority” and “oppression,” and they have a hard time believing that they can be powerful, without it costing someone else something. (more…)

  • Why INFJs Can’t Get What They Want Out of Life

    Why INFJs Can’t Get What They Want Out of Life

    One of the questions I hear the most often from INFJ personality types is:

    How come I’m always dissatisfied?

    Many INFJs feel like they are never content in life, and most of us blame ourselves. We believe it’s a problem with our own perspective, or an issue with us not being grateful enough for what we have. But this isn’t just a “you” problem, this is an INFJ problem.

    For INFJ personality types, experiencing a high quality of life is very important. We’re not satisfied with just having a steady job that pays the bills, and sharing social connections with people just because we have a few superficial things in common. (more…)

  • The Problem of Success for INFJs and INFPs

    The Problem of Success for INFJs and INFPs

    INFJ and INFP personality types are two of the MBTI types that tend to have the most trouble feeling successful in life. It’s a problem that not many of us talk about, but almost all of us deal with at one time or another.

    We might work a stressful, demanding job and not be paid very much, or we might always be taken advantage of at work. We might be passed over for promotions. We also have trouble feeling successful in our social lives. Many INFJ and INFP personality types feel like most of the people in our social circle don’t appreciate our quiet gifts. (more…)

  • The Best Piece of Writing Advice Most Writers Don’t Listen To

    The Best Piece of Writing Advice Most Writers Don’t Listen To

    For most writers, writing is a strong inner calling. It feels like a passion that they can’t ignore, a destiny they must fulfill. And for writers who feel blocked, or are cut off from the act of writing for some other reason, the lack of writing in their life results in a state of low-grade misery. A writer who isn’t writing feels unfulfilled, listless, and can easily fall into creative despair.

    Writer’s block is extremely common among writers. Most people assume that the most typical form of writer’s block stems from a lack of ideas, or a lack of motivation that comes from inside the writer. Writers themselves tend to assume this too. When we have problems writing, we most often blame some sort of “inadequacy” we see inside ourselves. However, the most typical cause of writer’s block that I’ve seen after so many years of working with writers actually comes from the outside. (more…)

  • Feeling Fear About the Future? Here’s What INFJs and INFPs Need to Know.

    Feeling Fear About the Future? Here’s What INFJs and INFPs Need to Know.

    In my last article, I talked about the “cocoon phase” for introverts, and how to know if you’re in one right now. Over the past few years—and especially the past few months—I’ve seen a definite pattern with my clients and students and the theme of life transition.

    Since the pandemic, many of us INFJs and INFPs are coming out of a long period of reflection, and an intense amount of upheaval. Some of us have lost jobs or quit jobs, some of us have ended long-term relationships, or decided to seek a partner after a long time of being on our own. And some of us have picked up and moved to a different city, state, or a different country altogether, or we’re considering such a move right now.

    These kinds of life transitions are common for intuitive introverts who are ready to open a new chapter in their life, and this can all be very exciting. However, it can be very scary, too. What usually happens when you begin making big life transitions is that you feel enthusiastic at first, and then you get hit with a big wall of fear. (more…)

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