The 3 Biggest Obstacles for INFP Writers

FSCOver a year ago I wrote an article called, “Introverted and Intuitive? Why the Writing Rules Probably Don’t Work for You.” And I got an overwhelming response from readers. In fact, I’m still getting emails about it. Apparently, there are hundreds of writers out there who run into difficulties when they try to outline their novel, plot the plot, or follow any sort of predetermined method of creation for their characters.

What’s really interesting is that the majority of writers who have reached out to me to say this article struck a deep chord in them have been INFPs.

This comes as no surprise. Over half of my clients are INFPs. I see the same challenges crop up for them again and again, and there are three big ones that it seems no INFP escapes. I cover this in depth in the chapter on INFPs in my book, The INFJ Writer, but I wanted to give some excerpts from the book for all the INFPs out there who need a quick-and-dirty version of the most common creative roadblocks they might be facing.

Coloring outside the Lines
Writing in chronological order is hard for INFPs. Their brains see the underlying patterns and big-picture view of things, and these patterns and this picture don’t always surface in a neat and orderly package.

Here’s what I say about it in The INFJ Writer:

Overwhelmingly, INFP writers told me one of their biggest challenges was the non-linear way their brains work. Starting at the beginning, then writing the middle, and then finishing up with the end is simply a plain impossibility for most INFPs. However, because most INFPs have gone through the standard educational system, they’ve been taught that chronological order is the right way to do things. They’ve been convinced that the way their minds work is weird, or ineffective, or hard for others to follow. This results in many INFPs trying to force themselves to work on projects in some sort of order that only brings a disastrous outcome. When INFPs push themselves to work in a way that runs counter to their natural wiring they find themselves near tears, paralyzed, and suffering from lower self esteem than ever before. Usually at this point, they give up on writing their story.

One INFP I interviewed had this to say about it:

I find that I am completely unable to do linear chronological order. Everything about writing is a mystery until I know for certain what it is…Usually, there is an image or a sentence or sound or an impulse or a hunch that will open up a scene or moment of the book for me. Often, I will have to go wandering for a long time until I find the piece that connects with it. Then I have to go back and find out how they are related.

The problem with this approach is that every time I go to revise, I feel like the self that wrote the thing tried to make cake in the kitchen on the floor and forgot to use a bowl. There is no structure, no container, just mess. I have to sit on the floor and sort out what is egg, what is cat litter, what is dust bunny, what might be part of a different cake, what belongs, what doesn’t. I keep telling myself that I’ll use a bowl next time, but I can’t seem to.

Self-Judgment
This one might be the toughest for INFPs. They hold themselves to the highest ethical and artistic standards and so they are particularly apt to struggle with the voice of their inner critic.

Here’s what The INFJ Writer tells us:

As with all Sensitive Intuitive writers, INFPs tend to be hard on themselves about the quality of their work. However, from what I’ve seen in my coaching practice, I would have to say that I believe the INFP to be the most self-critical of all the Sensitive Intuitive types. An INFP I interviewed said self-doubt is one of her greatest challenges:

I doubt everything, whether I am worthy of making words, whether I will write well enough, whether I will ever have another story, whether I am taking up too much space, whether it matters, whether I should be doing something more useful to the world (somewhere, there must be a kitten up a tree), whether I have the right to write.

I believe so many INFPs struggle with extreme self-doubt because, simply put, it’s damn hard to be an INFP in our current culture. Every one of their four letters is the opposite of what the mainstream values. INFPs are introverts in an extroverted world. They are intuitives in a culture where “reality” is decided almost solely by what information comes through the five senses. They are feelers in a society that relies on rational thinking and frowns upon emotion-based judgment. And last but not least, they are spontaneous dreamy soul-seekers in a world where time is money and people measure their worth by the length of their to-do list. No wonder INFPs have a difficult time believing in themselves.

Procrastination
Working against the grain in a non-linear manner, combined with the tendency toward extreme self-judgment, brings us to the third big obstacle INFP writers face: procrastination. However, the surprising thing is that even though most INFPs think of themselves as weak in time management skills, they can actually do very well with deadlines. I explore this further in The INFJ Writer:

When put in place by a compassionate mentor or teacher, deadlines can greatly help the INFP finish their writing projects. If they feel that someone else is counting on them, this can act more forcefully as a motivating agent than anything else. This might be due to the interesting relationship most INFPs have with time. The INFP writers I interviewed said they struggled the same amount with too much time, or too little.

One INFP said this about her writing time:

I need a lot of time just to get myself settled in a space of writing, for my psyche to land. The presence of most people makes it impossible to get in the zone because I keep anticipating that they will speak, even if they promise not to. I can also circle my chair for hours, never sitting down.

INFP writers have the most success when they are given large blocks of time to work uninterrupted, paired with a reasonable deadline to work toward. INFPs set incredibly high standards for themselves, and they have a somewhat unrealistic idea of the amount of work they should be able to get done in any given amount of time. So if the assignment is to write a 25-page story from start to finish within a two-week deadline, the INFP will usually push the writing of it until the last day or two and then scramble madly to finish. This is why I hold a different set of expectations for my INFP clients than they do for themselves. I give them the 25-page story assignment and tell them to finish it in two weeks, but I only really expect that they will make a good beginning on it. This is because intuitive writing takes time and two weeks is barely a drop in the bucket. If any of my clients makes a good, solid beginning on a short story draft in two weeks, then I’m highly satisfied with their work.

The INFJ Writer deals with these three big issues for INFPs, as well as a host of other difficulties all intuitive writers struggle with. In addition to chapters on perfectionism, Sensitive Intuitive self-doubt, and forming your own writing group as an introvert, The INFJ Writer also includes chapters on ENFP and ENFJ writers.

If you’re interested in reading more, you can find The INFJ Writer on Amazon. And if you’re an INFP writer, please leave a comment below and tell us about your experience!

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6 Comments

  • Reply Charity 8 August, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    As an ENFP, I relate to this a lot. I’m a perfectionist full of self doubt who procrastinates! I overestimate the amount of work I should be accomplishing. But I tend to push myself, force myself to write, self impose deadlines, and write books or articles straight through in order to see results. Some days it’s fine, some days it’s good, and some days nothing goes right, leaving me frustrated, angry, and full of self reproach, yet incapable of quitting, because by George, this plot will not lick me!

  • Reply Christy Esmahan 8 August, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    As an INFJ writer myself, I’m thrilled to recommend both Ms. Sapala as a writing coach and her novel, The INFJ Writer, which I’m more than half way through reading! She is uncannily spot on in her observations and her wise advice is very helpful! Brava Lauren!

  • Reply Alison Brodie 9 August, 2016 at 1:45 am

    I totally relate to this post. I would love to write a book in chronological order, but for me, it’s an impossibility. Scenes come to me in full techni-color and I scribble them down. Eventually, I have scribbled pieces of paper all over the place, which I have to fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. I get there in the end, though!

  • Reply Michael 9 August, 2016 at 11:43 am

    Great read again Lauren! It is so hard to try and write linearly and its too much fun writing out the images that pop into my head. You’re right though, I’m a very harsh critic of myself, and worry alot of people will just frown and ignore my fiction writing and dissmiss it as drivel. But it’s not! Lol

  • Reply hilarycustancegreen 14 August, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    Very interesting. I struggled to write essays at school and at University, then in my thirties the computer appeared and suddenly I was released. I could write in 3D, paragraphs could shifted, the end could become the beginning with a few finger clicks. I could construct a story as if it were a sculpture, just as you describe above, a pattern of ideas settling into sequence, but not written in that order.

  • Reply Robin 31 August, 2017 at 3:10 am

    I fall somewhere between INFJ and INFP. I’m a really good writer but can’t seem to be linear in anything else I do. 😛 Great article <3

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