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Lauren Sapala

Why INFJs and INFPs Don’t Fit In

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often struggle with fitting into society because we hold different values than most of the mainstream population. Mainstream society tends to value competition and aggression, and also tends to focus on scarcity, winning, domination, and right vs. wrong.

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are natural healers and hold the values of healer consciousness, which is focused on compassion, harmony, seeing all sides of a situation, and holding opinions lightly, so as to allow room for movement and change. These kinds of values and this kind of focus can feel threatening and confusing to many people in mainstream society. Continue Reading

22 August, 2024 by Lauren Sapala

INFJ and INFP Fear of Being Seen

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types both have the common fear of being seen by others. Both INFJ personality types and INFP personality types also crave being seen by others. We most often experience a fear of being seen because on some level we know that to be seen is also to be “mis-seen,” which means that other people will attach their stories and projections onto us.

Because INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to be internalizers (meaning we internalize most things and blame ourselves for most things) we also tend to take responsibility for the projections of others. If someone misunderstands us, or judges us unfairly, we feel this very acutely, and we also feel the need to fix it, or to correct their judgment. When we take our place in the spotlight, it become impossible to make sure that every single person sees us accurately and does not project anything onto us. Continue Reading

19 August, 2024 by Lauren Sapala

INFJ and INFP Health Anxiety

Many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types struggle with health anxiety. Health anxiety can come from c-ptsd, from messages received from society, or from a generalized anxiety disorder. Health anxiety happens when we don’t trust our bodies, and we don’t trust the healing process, or the flow of life. Continue Reading

1 August, 2024 by Lauren Sapala

INFJ and INFP Fear of Intuition

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types usually have a strong need and desire to connect with intuition, but many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are also scared of connecting with intuition. Much of the time, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are scared that our intuition with tell us something we don’t want to know, or that we are afraid to face. We might also be scared that our intuition will push us into action we don’t feel ready to take yet in our lives. Continue Reading

30 July, 2024 by Lauren Sapala

INFJ and INFP Disconnection from the Body

INFJ and INFP personality types tend to live mostly inside our own heads. Our inner world is an escape from the outside world. Frequently, we use this kind of escape from the outer world because of our high sensitivity, and because we feel misunderstood by most other people. Continue Reading

27 July, 2024 by Lauren Sapala

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