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Lauren Sapala

How Do I Get Over the Fear of Starting?

For writers, starting is definitely the hardest part. It’s common for writers to dream about writing their book—and holding their finished book in their hands—for months, or even years. However, when it comes time to sit down at the desk and write those first few sentences, more often than not, that’s when we experience total fear and paralysis.

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Why Is It So Lonely Being a Writer?

It’s no surprise that many writers feel misunderstood and alone. Writing, after all, is mostly a solitary pursuit. Whenever we visualize a writer hard at work, we tend to think of a person sitting all by themselves in an empty room, typing away. While this is sometimes true, that doesn’t mean that writers like being lonely or that we don’t long for connection or community.

It’s not only the solitary nature of writing that makes writers lonely. It’s also that most writers are introverts. We tend to be naturally introspective, and some of us even suffer from social anxiety. Groups and group activities can be hard for us, and even though we have a lot to say on the page, making conversation in real life isn’t always easy.

I talk more about writers and why we’re so lonely in the video below: Continue Reading

New Video Course for INFJ Writers!

I just released my new video course for INFJ writers. It’s called Understanding Yourself as an INFJ Writer and it features a ton of information on common INFJ writer obstacles and how to conquer them.

It also covers:

What to do when we hit a wall in our first draft

How to stop giving away our writing time

Conquering INFJ writer self-sabotage

What to do about never feeling good enough

How to get out of research mode and actually start writing

How to trust the creative process

I made a short video with all the details about this new course:

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5 Hidden Benefits of Being an INFJ Writer

One of my students asked me the other day about the positives of being an INFJ writer. The question made me stop and think because I realized that, although we talk a lot about the struggles of being an INFJ writer, rarely do we pause to appreciate the gifts. And there are plenty of gifts, that’s for certain. So today I’m taking a little time to remind all the INFJ writers out there (as well as myself) why it’s great to be an INFJ writer. Continue Reading

Why Writers and Artists Have Such a Hard Time Selling Things

Writers and artists are notorious for being horrible salesmen, and many of them take a certain sort of secret pride in this fact. Even though it’s uncomfortable, being a “starving artist” can feel noble to creative types, and it also seems to prevent against the evil of “selling out,” something else which many writers and artists fear.

On the other hand, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients who come to me and say, “I’m so passionate about my creative work. Why can’t I make any money from it? What am I doing wrong?”

The problem is the emotional baggage that most writers and artists have around the selling process. We do tend to see the act of selling as something negative. However, the selling process itself is neutral. It’s the energy we bring to the selling process that determines whether it becomes positive or negative. Continue Reading