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Lauren Sapala

Are You an INFJ or INFP Suppressing Your Intuition?

One of the most frequently asked questions I get from INFJs and INFPs is about suppressed intuition. It seems that so many of us shut down our natural intuitive gifts in childhood or early adolescence. This happens due to a variety of reasons, ranging from a narcissistic parent who never allowed us to truly be ourselves, to peer pressure in school from other kids who thought we were weird, or even teachers who couldn’t understand how we operated.

These experiences are extremely common for INFJs and INFPs, unfortunately. Most of us grow up feeling that something is wrong with us, something is “defective,” and so we try to go in the opposite direction and make ourselves into something different in order to fit in with the mainstream population.

But something happens after we grow up, especially later in life. That intuitive part of us resurfaces and it demands to be heard. We might push it down again out of fear or shame, but it never quite entirely goes away. So, then we double down on our efforts to use our logical side, the rational part of our brain that is also pretty good at solving problems and getting us out of tight spots whenever needed. However, in this case it doesn’t work. No matter how hard we try to think our way out of THIS problem, it just can’t be solved.

And that’s when the anxiety sets in.

Almost every INFJ or INFP I have ever talked to suffers from anxiety, and I do believe suppressing our natural intuition is one of the main causes. High anxiety or nervous tension is just one red flag that pops up when an INFJ or INFP suppresses their intuition though, there are more. I cover two of the biggest indicators in my latest video on INFJs and INFPs and intuition:

I also talk about a simple exercise anyone can use to begin to reconnect with their intuition, and uncover the reason they shut it down in the first place. Once an INFJ or INFP reconnects with their natural intuition, everything starts getting better. Their health improves, and so does their confidence in themselves and their whole experience of life. It’s a huge transformation and it’s truly life-changing.

I’m going to be teaching a brand-new course in March called, “The Creative Power of Intuition,” and I’m going to be teaching everything I talk about in the video, and also going way more in-depth on everything that has to do with intuition for INFJs and INFPs. I’m doing a 3-part video series this week to answer the most popular questions I’ve received about the course, so if you want to make sure you get the next 2 videos in the series, please sign up for my newsletter here so you don’t miss out.

And if you have any specific questions about the course that I haven’t answered, please feel free to email me at I would love to help get all those questions answered!

Lauren Sapala is the author of  The INFJ Revolution, a guide to identifying and dissolving the roadblocks that hold back INFJs, INFPs, HSPs, and empaths from finding and living their life purpose, and  The INFJ Writer, a writing guide made specifically for sensitive intuitive writers.

Marketing as a Sensitive Creative

Today’s guest post comes from Ritu Kaushal, the author of the memoir  The Empath’s Journey, which TEDx speaker Andy Mort calls “a fascinating insight into the life of a highly sensitive person and emotional empath.” Ritu was recently awarded the silver medal at the prestigious REX awards, instituted by the United Nations & iCONGO in India, and given to people creating social impact through their work. Ritu writes about highly sensitive creatives on her blog Walking Through Transitions. Her work has been featured on Sensitive Evolution, Tiny Buddha, and Elephant Journal, amongst others.

Last year, my book The Empath’s Journey was released. As someone who has had significant creative wounds, the process of birthing the book was full of labor pains. Because it’s a memoir about being highly sensitive, the writing process felt full of landmines, some of which I successfully avoided and some of which I walked right into.

To say the least, it was a difficult birth. Continue Reading

The Empath’s Curse and How I Stopped Letting It Control My Life

Today’s guest post comes from Michelle Cornish, co-author of  Freeing the Butterfly: Transform Your Life Through Simple Exercises, Meditations, and Affirmations, where she shares more tips for getting to know yourself and feeling happier in your own skin. Michelle is an intuitive feeler and an empath as well. I love this article because it shares such great tips for navigating the often confusing waters of overwhelming emotion that empaths can experience.

I remember feeling many overwhelming feelings when I was a kid. What struck me the most was that I often felt sad when I thought I should be happy and vice versa. My feelings made little sense to me. I thought I was weird and just wanted to be like everyone else, so I became really good at reading a room. I was a chameleon.

When I tried to be myself, people told me I was too sensitive or I wouldn’t understand. But I understood. Adult problems were very real to me. Sometimes they consumed me, especially when I was a teenager. I was constantly asking myself what I would do with my life and how I would make a living. Continue Reading

A Free Online Summit Just for INFJs and INFPs

I’ve got exciting news to share today, especially if you identify as an INFJ or INFP personality type, an empath, or a Highly Sensitive Person.

My friend Jasraj Hothi (author and founder of the INF club) and I put together a free online summit with video sessions featuring INFJ and INFP creators, entrepreneurs, authors, speakers, bloggers, and coaches.

We just opened registration this morning:


Every video session includes an INFJ or INFP sharing their experiences, their strategies, and their thoughts and feelings on living as an INFJ or INFP in a world that can be challenging for introverted intuitive feelers. Continue Reading

From Struggling and Self-Doubt to Creative Transformation

I’m on the Hearts Rise Up podcast today!

I had a good long talk with Carol Chapman about getting past my own addiction and creative paralysis to become a writing coach for INFJ and INFP writers. We also talked about the ways empaths and sensitive intuitives can begin to accept ourselves AND our unique gifts.

INFJs and INFPs don’t experience life the way other people do, and we don’t make art the way other people do either. That doesn’t mean we’re defective, it only means that it’s up to us to learn more about our intuition—our biggest strength—and begin to use it to write our book, launch our business, and rise up to be our best self. Continue Reading