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Lauren Sapala

How to Conquer a Lack of Writing Motivation

Lack of writing motivation is one of the biggest silent killers of creativity. I say “silent” because so many writers don’t talk about this issue, and that’s because a lot of us feel deep shame when we can’t get motivated. It’s very common for writers to suffer from this problem and blame themselves, and it’s hard to reach out for help or find support when you’re in a shame spiral about a lack of motivation.

When most of us experience lack of motivation, we usually assume that we’re being “lazy.” Or that we’re not that creative and that inspiration is something we might never see again. However, this is absolutely not true. Lack of motivation is something we can rarely control, and without outside support, it can feel impossible to move past. Continue Reading

21 March, 2023 by

Feel Like You’re Going Nowhere with Your Writing?

One of the biggest problems I see writers struggle with is that we often feel like we’re going nowhere with our writing. We may feel like we’re not making any actual progress, or we’ve been working on a project for a really long time, and still, we’re not seeing measurable results. When we’re in this painful place with our writing, we often feel alone and like we lack support, and like we also lack the structure we need to keep going with our writing. Continue Reading

19 March, 2023 by

The INFJ Psychic Bond with Romantic Partners

When an INFJ or an INFP falls in love with someone and forms an intense intimate bond with them (whether or not they’re in an official relationship), we start picking up on their energy, and it’s not long before it seems that a telepathic connection forms and we’re receiving all sorts of thoughts, feelings, fears, desires, and pain in a whole package of the other person’s energy.

Some INFJs and INFPs have reported to me that, after falling in love with someone:

They sometimes get the other person’s thoughts in their head. Continue Reading

15 March, 2023 by

Why Do INFJs and INFPs Get Obsessed with Their Crushes?

If you are an INFJ or an INFP personality type, you know it’s possible to experience intense attraction with your crushes. In fact, most of the time when you develop a “crush” on someone, it doesn’t feel like just a crush. It feels like an obsession.

This can be super confusing for INFJs and INFPs, and many of us blame ourselves for this, feeling like something is wrong with us or like we’re getting overly attached to someone we just recently met, or even someone who we might feel it’s inappropriate for us to have feelings for (especially if we’re already married or in some other type of committed relationship). Continue Reading

13 March, 2023 by

Why Empaths Experience Extreme Fear Around Writing Their Stories

Years ago, when I was a struggling alcoholic 20-something in Seattle, my secret dream was to be a writer. But, I couldn’t write. Every time I sat down to try, I was blocked. And not just blocked, but extremely blocked. I felt panicky and anxious, or numb and frozen. I literally could not write one word, even though I thought about writing all the time.

I assumed something was really wrong with me. If I wanted to write so badly, then why couldn’t I write at all?

It wasn’t until years later, after I had joined a silent writing program and finally been able to write my first novel, that I understood what was actually going on with me. The answer was clear, and yet it’s something I still see so many writers struggling with, and just like me, they have no idea why they are struggling so much to write. Continue Reading

27 February, 2023 by