When an INFJ or an INFP falls in love with someone and forms an intense intimate bond with them (whether or not they’re in an official relationship), we start picking up on their energy, and it’s not long before it seems that a telepathic connection forms and we’re receiving all sorts of thoughts, feelings, fears, desires, and pain in a whole package of the other person’s energy.
Some INFJs and INFPs have reported to me that, after falling in love with someone:
They sometimes get the other person’s thoughts in their head. Continue Reading
When I was in my 20’s, I fell madly in love with a guy and ended up moving across the country for him. We were together for three months in Seattle before he broke up with me and started dating someone else. A couple of friends had moved out to the West Coast with me, so I wasn’t totally alone, but I was still devastated. Not only over losing the guy, but also because it seemed like no one else around me understood what I was going through.
This had been a pattern before the Seattle-guy breakup, and it continued to be a pattern afterward. For a long time, I assumed that I was too sensitive, or that I got too attached to people. For a while, I just thought something was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I get over people as fast as others did? Why did it take me a year or two, or an even longer amount of time, before I wasn’t actively in pain over a relationship crashing and burning? And maybe the weirdest thing of all, why did I still FEEL the energy of the person long after we had ceased to speak or even glimpse each other in real life? Continue Reading
For most INFJ personality types, intuition is something we’re born with that can be extremely strong from a young age. However, much of the time, due to family circumstances and societal conditioning, our natural intuitive abilities become blocked and then it feels difficult to access them.
One of the main things that can block an INFJ’s intuition is overthinking, and INFJ personality types—especially when stressed—are particularly prone to doing this. When we begin overthinking everything we experience the same thought loops over and over, and while it might seem like we’re trying to find a solution to whatever problem is causing us to overthink everything, in reality we’re just driving ourselves crazy and not getting anywhere at all.
This is when our natural intuition becomes blocked, because it’s almost impossible to receive any information from our intuition when we’re caught up in overthinking. There is a way to get past this though, and it’s easier than you might assume. I talk about how to quickly and easily unblock your INFJ intuition in the video below:
I’m teaching a new class this September called Energy and Intuition for INFJs and I’m going to be covering topics like these, and so much more. We’re going to be learning about INFJ psychic sensitivity (and how to use it), trouble spots for INFJs in relationships, how intuition influences the INFJ creative process, stress and self-care for INFJS, and more. If this sounds like something you need right now, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates.
I love teaching on INFJ-related topics, and I’ve worked with so many INFJs over the past ten years, so this class is a long time coming. I’m really excited about it. I think it will be the perfect accompaniment to the big life transitions that so many INFJs are going through right now.
If you have any questions at all, please send them to me here. And stay tuned for the next video in this series on “Dealing with Emotional Overwhelm as an INFJ.”
Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer, The INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.
I was one of those kids that just never really fit in. It wasn’t any one thing that separated me from the herd, it was more like a collection of things. I wasn’t competitive and I didn’t like sports. The latest trends tended to escape me and I usually gave weird answers whenever anyone asked me a question. I also asked weird questions when it was the other way around. During elementary school and then junior high and finally high school, it was always the same. I had friends. People did like me. But there was always something off, something about me that just didn’t fit.
I tried a variety of different strategies to deal with this. I tried being a chameleon and copying what the other kids around me were doing. That didn’t work. I tried swinging all the way to the other end of the spectrum and being totally and extremely weird, and that didn’t work either. So, somewhere around late adolescence/early adulthood I resigned myself to the fact that I was an odd-shaped person in a regular kind of world and I would probably always feel out of place.Continue Reading
