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My New Novel Released Today!

For those of you who follow my updates regularly, you know that I not only write books on creativity and writing for intuitive people, but I also write fiction that’s a bit on the darker side. A few years ago I released my first novel, Between the Shadow and Lo, and then followed it up with the sequel, West Is San Francisco. Now, I’ve finally released the third and last book in the series, Enormous Forces.

These three books form the West Coast Trilogy, a fiction series that’s a little weird, a little transgressive, and reads a little like memoir. It’s based on 10 years of my life when I went ricocheting back and forth between Seattle and San Francisco, trying desperately to outrun addiction, escape myself, and figure out life.

Enormous Forces is now available in paperback and on Kindle on Amazon. Click the image below to buy:

I want to send a HUGE thank you to everyone who has supported me during the long, long process of writing these books. I started writing Between the Shadow and Lo in 2006, and I never dreamed it would take me 17 years to complete and publish them all.

I hear from clients and students all the time who are frustrated at how long it’s taking them to write their novel or memoir, and I just want to say: You are not alone and this is actually very normal. The mainstream writing community tends to gloss over just how long it actually takes to write a book, and so there is a lot of focus on the overnight success stories, and not so much focus on the slow-and-steady pace that most of us come to naturally.

To celebrate finally finishing the long journey of completing the West Coast Trilogy, the first two books, Between the Shadow and Lo, and West Is San Francisco, are both on sale right now for 99 cents. So, if you’ve never read any of the books, you can catch up quickly. You can get both on Kindle here:



Thanks so much everyone for being a reader, and a supporter. I appreciate you all!

Are You a “Lonely Chameleon” Type of Empath?

Most empaths draw people to them naturally and have no trouble making friends. This is because empaths are excellent listeners and function as a safe space for others. However, empaths usually feel lonely in crowds, and in relationships.

A lonely empath experiences this feeling of loneliness in relationships because they often unconsciously adopt the mask of “the chameleon” when dealing with friends, coworkers, and social situations. Empaths are very good at reading energy, and they use their energy reading skills to anticipate others’ needs. Then they make personality adjustments based on those anticipated needs. So, empaths change their personality according to the people who surround them. Continue Reading

The INFJ Psychic Bond with Romantic Partners

When an INFJ or an INFP falls in love with someone and forms an intense intimate bond with them (whether or not they’re in an official relationship), we start picking up on their energy, and it’s not long before it seems that a telepathic connection forms and we’re receiving all sorts of thoughts, feelings, fears, desires, and pain in a whole package of the other person’s energy.

Some INFJs and INFPs have reported to me that, after falling in love with someone:

They sometimes get the other person’s thoughts in their head. Continue Reading

What Happens When INFJs and INFPs Fall in Love

When I was in my 20’s, I fell madly in love with a guy and ended up moving across the country for him. We were together for three months in Seattle before he broke up with me and started dating someone else. A couple of friends had moved out to the West Coast with me, so I wasn’t totally alone, but I was still devastated. Not only over losing the guy, but also because it seemed like no one else around me understood what I was going through.

This had been a pattern before the Seattle-guy breakup, and it continued to be a pattern afterward. For a long time, I assumed that I was too sensitive, or that I got too attached to people. For a while, I just thought something was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I get over people as fast as others did? Why did it take me a year or two, or an even longer amount of time, before I wasn’t actively in pain over a relationship crashing and burning? And maybe the weirdest thing of all, why did I still FEEL the energy of the person long after we had ceased to speak or even glimpse each other in real life? Continue Reading

How to Unblock Your INFJ Intuition

For most INFJ personality types, intuition is something we’re born with that can be extremely strong from a young age. However, much of the time, due to family circumstances and societal conditioning, our natural intuitive abilities become blocked and then it feels difficult to access them.

One of the main things that can block an INFJ’s intuition is overthinking, and INFJ personality types—especially when stressed—are particularly prone to doing this. When we begin overthinking everything we experience the same thought loops over and over, and while it might seem like we’re trying to find a solution to whatever problem is causing us to overthink everything, in reality we’re just driving ourselves crazy and not getting anywhere at all.

This is when our natural intuition becomes blocked, because it’s almost impossible to receive any information from our intuition when we’re caught up in overthinking. There is a way to get past this though, and it’s easier than you might assume. I talk about how to quickly and easily unblock your INFJ intuition in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class this September called Energy and Intuition for INFJs and I’m going to be covering topics like these, and so much more. We’re going to be learning about INFJ psychic sensitivity (and how to use it), trouble spots for INFJs in relationships, how intuition influences the INFJ creative process, stress and self-care for INFJS, and more. If this sounds like something you need right now, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates.

I love teaching on INFJ-related topics, and I’ve worked with so many INFJs over the past ten years, so this class is a long time coming. I’m really excited about it. I think it will be the perfect accompaniment to the big life transitions that so many INFJs are going through right now.

If you have any questions at all, please send them to me here. And stay tuned for the next video in this series on “Dealing with Emotional Overwhelm as an INFJ.”

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer and The INFJ Revolution. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.