Lauren Sapala

Category: Introverts, INFJs, and INFPs

  • INFJ and INFP Fear of Intuition

    INFJ and INFP Fear of Intuition

    INFJ personality types and INFP personality types usually have a strong need and desire to connect with intuition, but many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are also scared of connecting with intuition. Much of the time, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are scared that our intuition with tell us something we don’t want to know, or that we are afraid to face. We might also be scared that our intuition will push us into action we don’t feel ready to take yet in our lives. (more…)

  • INFJ and INFP Disconnection from the Body

    INFJ and INFP Disconnection from the Body

    INFJ and INFP personality types tend to live mostly inside our own heads. Our inner world is an escape from the outside world. Frequently, we use this kind of escape from the outer world because of our high sensitivity, and because we feel misunderstood by most other people. (more…)

  • INFJ and INFP Fawning Response

    INFJ and INFP Fawning Response

    For INFJ personality types and INFP personality types, the fawning response is most often a result of trauma in childhood. However, a consistent fawning response can also come about in relationships due to self-worth issues, and not feeling understood by others.

    Fawning is an extreme form of people-pleasing, and when INFJ personality types and INFP personality types use this type of strategy in relationships, we signal to the other person that we will do anything to placate them and make them happy. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types use the fawning response to stay in control of interactions and manage the unpredictable moods of others, especially if those others are narcissistic personality types. (more…)

  • INFJ and INFP Personality Types and Frenemies

    INFJ and INFP Personality Types and Frenemies

    INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often attract people who want to form friendships, but who also give mixed messages. These messages may include:

    “I like you,” and “I’m jealous / threatened by you.”

    Or, “we’re friends,” but “I want to see you fail.”

    This type of “friend” is known as a “frenemy,” because they embody traits of a friend, and also traits of an enemy. The mixed messages that INFJ personality types and INFP personality types receive in these types of friendships are very confusing and hurtful, and we usually internalize the messages and blame ourselves. (more…)

  • Neurodivergence and Creativity

    Neurodivergence and Creativity

    The INFJ personality type and INFP personality type can easily fall into self-judgment about our ability to focus, or our lack of focus. This comes up especially strongly around the creative process. We tend to believe that “creative focus” means completing a project using linear steps, and being very organized all along the way. We also usually assume that being focused means we need to be efficient and fast when completing the project, and that we also need to stick with one creative project until it’s done. (more…)