Many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types struggle with health anxiety. Health anxiety can come from c-ptsd, from messages received from society, or from a generalized anxiety disorder. Health anxiety happens when we don’t trust our bodies, and we don’t trust the healing process, or the flow of life.
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types usually have a strong need and desire to connect with intuition, but many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are also scared of connecting with intuition. Much of the time, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are scared that our intuition with tell us something we don’t want to know, or that we are afraid to face. We might also be scared that our intuition will push us into action we don’t feel ready to take yet in our lives.
For INFJ personality types and INFP personality types, the fawning response is most often a result of trauma in childhood. However, a consistent fawning response can also come about in relationships due to self-worth issues, and not feeling understood by others.
Fawning is an extreme form of people-pleasing, and when INFJ personality types and INFP personality types use this type of strategy in relationships, we signal to the other person that we will do anything to placate them and make them happy. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types use the fawning response to stay in control of interactions and manage the unpredictable moods of others, especially if those others are narcissistic personality types.
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often attract people who want to form friendships, but who also give mixed messages. These messages may include:
“I like you,” and “I’m jealous / threatened by you.”
Or, “we’re friends,” but “I want to see you fail.”
This type of “friend” is known as a “frenemy,” because they embody traits of a friend, and also traits of an enemy. The mixed messages that INFJ personality types and INFP personality types receive in these types of friendships are very confusing and hurtful, and we usually internalize the messages and blame ourselves.
