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Lauren Sapala

New Video Course for INFJ Writers!

I just released my new video course for INFJ writers. It’s called Understanding Yourself as an INFJ Writer and it features a ton of information on common INFJ writer obstacles and how to conquer them.

It also covers:

What to do when we hit a wall in our first draft

How to stop giving away our writing time

Conquering INFJ writer self-sabotage

What to do about never feeling good enough

How to get out of research mode and actually start writing

How to trust the creative process

I made a short video with all the details about this new course:

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5 Hidden Benefits of Being an INFJ Writer

One of my students asked me the other day about the positives of being an INFJ writer. The question made me stop and think because I realized that, although we talk a lot about the struggles of being an INFJ writer, rarely do we pause to appreciate the gifts. And there are plenty of gifts, that’s for certain. So today I’m taking a little time to remind all the INFJ writers out there (as well as myself) why it’s great to be an INFJ writer. Continue Reading

Why Writers and Artists Have Such a Hard Time Selling Things

Writers and artists are notorious for being horrible salesmen, and many of them take a certain sort of secret pride in this fact. Even though it’s uncomfortable, being a “starving artist” can feel noble to creative types, and it also seems to prevent against the evil of “selling out,” something else which many writers and artists fear.

On the other hand, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients who come to me and say, “I’m so passionate about my creative work. Why can’t I make any money from it? What am I doing wrong?”

The problem is the emotional baggage that most writers and artists have around the selling process. We do tend to see the act of selling as something negative. However, the selling process itself is neutral. It’s the energy we bring to the selling process that determines whether it becomes positive or negative. Continue Reading

Dealing with Emotional Overwhelm as an INFJ

One of the biggest problems INFJ personality types deal with is avoidance, and many of us don’t even know that we’re doing it or how much it’s holding us back. Avoidance in INFJ personality types may show up as social anxiety, procrastination, perfectionism, shyness, and/or denial about things that need to change in our life.

One of the reasons we have such strong avoidant tendencies is because we get emotionally overwhelmed. Almost every INFJ is also a Highly Sensitive Person, and this high sensitivity extends to our emotional system as well. We are hurt easily by criticism and dragged down quickly by pessimism or any other kind of excessive negativity. We are also hyper-aware of the tone of voice and moods of others. All of these things can cause us to experience an emotional storm within ourselves. These storms are hard to weather and so, as a way to protect ourselves, most INFJ personality types avoid anything that might cause one of these storms within us.

However, there is a way to deal with emotional overwhelm for INFJs that doesn’t feed into our unhelpful avoidant tendencies. I talk about this more in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class this September called Energy and Intuition for INFJs and I’m going to be covering topics like these, and so much more. We’re going to be learning about INFJ emotions, the INFJ/empath connection, how to use INFJ intuition to navigate our frequent emotional storms, INFJ anxiety and depression, and more. If this sounds like something you need right now, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates.

This is the third and final video in this series as I get ready to launch this new class, and I’ve already gotten so many messages from INFJs letting me know that this is exactly what they need and they’re so excited to begin—and so excited to meet other INFJs. Many of us INFJs don’t know a single other INFJ and it can get really lonely. I’m hoping this class will change that for a lot of people.

If you have any questions at all, please send them to me here. I’ll be opening registration in just a couple of days, on Thurs Sep 8. I’ll see you then!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.

How to Unblock Your INFJ Intuition

For most INFJ personality types, intuition is something we’re born with that can be extremely strong from a young age. However, much of the time, due to family circumstances and societal conditioning, our natural intuitive abilities become blocked and then it feels difficult to access them.

One of the main things that can block an INFJ’s intuition is overthinking, and INFJ personality types—especially when stressed—are particularly prone to doing this. When we begin overthinking everything we experience the same thought loops over and over, and while it might seem like we’re trying to find a solution to whatever problem is causing us to overthink everything, in reality we’re just driving ourselves crazy and not getting anywhere at all.

This is when our natural intuition becomes blocked, because it’s almost impossible to receive any information from our intuition when we’re caught up in overthinking. There is a way to get past this though, and it’s easier than you might assume. I talk about how to quickly and easily unblock your INFJ intuition in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class this September called Energy and Intuition for INFJs and I’m going to be covering topics like these, and so much more. We’re going to be learning about INFJ psychic sensitivity (and how to use it), trouble spots for INFJs in relationships, how intuition influences the INFJ creative process, stress and self-care for INFJS, and more. If this sounds like something you need right now, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates.

I love teaching on INFJ-related topics, and I’ve worked with so many INFJs over the past ten years, so this class is a long time coming. I’m really excited about it. I think it will be the perfect accompaniment to the big life transitions that so many INFJs are going through right now.

If you have any questions at all, please send them to me here. And stay tuned for the next video in this series on “Dealing with Emotional Overwhelm as an INFJ.”

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.