5 Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore That Are Telling You to Write Your Memoir

It’s very common for writers to begin writing their memoir and then tell me, “Oh wow, I wish I’d started this years ago. I can’t believe I put off writing my book for this long.” This is because, once the writer starts actually writing, they realize that they’ve been getting clear signs all along that writing their memoir was an important life task they are supposed to complete.

So, why do we ignore clear signs and still keep procrastinating on writing our memoir? Well, it’s pretty simple really. It’s fear. Every writer who has ever considered writing a memoir has felt this fear—and it’s no easy thing to conquer.

However, there are handful of BIG signs (5 in particular) that only happen when it’s truly time for a person to get serious about writing their memoir.

I outline these 5 signs in the video below:

I’m teaching a new class this June called Memoir Writing for Everyone and we’re going to be diving deep into the memoir writing process. We’ll be learning:

How to start your first draft
How to edit and structure your memoir
How to deal with fear of judgment

And more.

The class will also include Directed Writing Sessions, in which I’ll be giving memoir-specific prompts to get you going on writing some of the actual pieces of your memoir, so you’ll have something substantial to work with once the class ends.

To get all the updates on the class as I announce them, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE, and if you have any questions about the class, you can them to me here.

I’ll be releasing the third and final video in this series in just a couple of days. See you then!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.

How Do You Know If You Should Write a Memoir?

In every one of my classes for writers, there are always a few writers who are doing deep healing work and, along the way, discover that they feel called to write a memoir. However, immediately after this, self-doubt kicks in and the writer questions if they really should be spending their time trying to write a memoir, or if their time would be better spent on some other writing project.

I’ve also worked with many people who have tried to write their memoir, but never finished it, or could never quite get the motivation to start it. This is extremely common for writers who are embarking on writing a first memoir. The problem is that every writer who goes through it tends to feel very isolated and has no idea their struggle is not just about them, but is actually a relatively natural part of the process for first-time memoir writers.

Usually, first-time memoir writers are dealing with a lot of fear around the process. They’re afraid that: Continue Reading

Top 5 Causes of Procrastination in Writers

Are you a writer who struggles with procrastination? Well, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with hundreds of struggling writers and procrastination is one of the most commonly reported problems and sources of dissatisfaction among writers that I see in my coaching practice.

Most writers know that procrastination is the problem, but many of us don’t know exactly WHY. I’ve outlined my list of the top 5 causes of procrastination in writers that I see all the time in my clients and students. Continue Reading

How Can I Know When to Trust My Intuition (in Writing and in Life)?

In my last article, One Easy Way to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition, I talked about the exact way that fear feels different from intuition, and how you can learn how to feel this difference yourself and use it to separate the two.

That article triggered a flurry of questions from my readers about how to know when you can trust your intuition at all. Many people said that they’ve gotten “intuitive hits” in the past that turned out to be true later on, but they didn’t know how to listen to that intuition in the moment, when it was trying to steer them in the right direction.

The key is to know that each person has a unique set of inner cues that will come through the body, in a very specific and reliable way, every time their intuition is trying to get their attention. It’s just that we usually either brush off these signals from our body, or we don’t realize that’s what they are and so we don’t slow down to see what’s really happening.

Once we learn our unique set of body cues, we have a solid starting point with our intuition, and once we can get comfortable with intuitive tools like these, we can begin to use them in our everyday life and in our writing practice.

I talk more about this in the video below:

Learning how to use your intuition and building self-trust can transform your writing practice at a deep level that you’ve never seen before. Instead of feeling like you’re always trying to push your writing forward, it feels more like a path is opening up right in front of you and all you have to do is be open to following it.

I’m teaching these concepts and so much more in my upcoming online class starting May 2 (next week!) called Finding Your Writing Magic. We’re going to be learning about getting comfortable with the unconscious, working with story as a co-creative process, and writing as an act of power. If this sounds like something you would really like, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get the announcement when I open registration on April 27.

(Please note: This class will contain completely different material than my Intuitive Writing video course. We will touch on Intuitive Writing briefly as a tool, but only briefly. This is a new class with entirely new material.)

I won’t be teaching this class again, or making a video course from it, either. So, this is your only chance to take this class. Replays will be made available for those who can’t make the class live, and class members will get lifetime access to those replays, which is a great option for those who want to do it as a self-paced class in the weeks or months ahead.

If you want in, make sure you get in during the five-day registration window. And if you have any questions, you can contact me here.

I’ll see everyone in just a couple days when doors open for registration!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.

One Easy Way to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition

In my last article in this series, Why So Many INFJ and INFP Writers Have Problems Using Their Intuition in Writing, I talked about how difficult it can be to listen to your intuition sometimes, and how hard it can be to tell the difference between fear and intuition.

In fact, this is one of the most commonly asked questions I get from clients and students. In both cases, fear and intuition feel like a strong urge or nudge to take action or go in a certain direction. Both can also feel pressing, necessary, and very immediate. For those who don’t have a lot of practice in accessing their intuition or listening to it, it can feel impossible to tell the difference on whether these inner signals are coming from a place of fear, or if they belong to that small, still voice within that will never steer you wrong.

This can be particularly tough for writers. Should your character really take that next step in the timeline, or are you just pushing them ahead because you feel panicky about the lack of progress with your story? It’s questions like these that plague writers who might be naturally intuitive people, but are not able to trust their intuition to the point where they can let it lead them creatively.

A lack of trust in your intuition in writing is directly related to a lack of trust in yourself in life. Writing and life are not two separate things to be put into two separate boxes. What affects one will always affect the other. This is why it’s so important for writers who are intuitively centered to give their intuitive skills priority, and do everything they can to develop self-trust from within.

The most basic place to start is learning how to tell the difference between intuition and fear. I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m teaching an online class this May called Finding Your Writing Magic and I’m going to be teaching writers how to work with their own natural intuitive style, how to access the magic in their creativity and everyday lives, and how to deeply connect with their own power in writing. If this resonates with you, then please make sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates on the class.

Please note: This class will contain completely different material than my Intuitive Writing video course. We will touch on Intuitive Writing briefly as a tool, but only briefly. This is a new class with entirely new material.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me here. First day of class is Monday, May 2 so please get those questions to me ASAP. I’ll see you all very soon with the last video in this series, all about how to know when you can trust the information your intuition is bringing through to you.

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, an online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with traditional writing methods. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.