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Lauren Sapala

Why INFJs Can’t Get What They Want Out of Life

One of the questions I hear the most often from INFJ personality types is:

How come I’m always dissatisfied?

Many INFJs feel like they are never content in life, and most of us blame ourselves. We believe it’s a problem with our own perspective, or an issue with us not being grateful enough for what we have. But this isn’t just a “you” problem, this is an INFJ problem.

For INFJ personality types, experiencing a high quality of life is very important. We’re not satisfied with just having a steady job that pays the bills, and sharing social connections with people just because we have a few superficial things in common. Continue Reading

15 August, 2023 by

The Problem of Success for INFJs and INFPs

INFJ and INFP personality types are two of the MBTI types that tend to have the most trouble feeling successful in life. It’s a problem that not many of us talk about, but almost all of us deal with at one time or another.

We might work a stressful, demanding job and not be paid very much, or we might always be taken advantage of at work. We might be passed over for promotions. We also have trouble feeling successful in our social lives. Many INFJ and INFP personality types feel like most of the people in our social circle don’t appreciate our quiet gifts. Continue Reading

13 August, 2023 by

How to Protect Your Creative Work from Criticism

One of the biggest fears that people deal with around creativity is the fear of what other people will think. Many of us try to tell ourselves that we don’t care, but this just isn’t true. We worry that we will be judged or criticized if we put our creative work out there.

Sometimes we’re worried that people will judge our work as inadequate and then we’ll feel like we have no talent as a writer or an artist. Sometimes we’re scared that others will misunderstand us and not grasp the message we’re trying to convey through our work. We might also worry that we will offend family, friends, or even strangers. Continue Reading

3 August, 2023 by

Tired of Your Life? Take Your Creative Power Back

Lately, I’ve been hearing from a lot of clients and students that they feel tired of their lives. This isn’t surprising, as we’ve all been in a big energetic cycle of releasing the past for a long while now. Releasing the old is always a good practice, as it helps us move into the new. But a problem that comes along with this process is not always knowing exactly what new thing you want to move into in the future.

Most of us would love to move into a new life full of freedom and creativity. We want to finally start (or finish) the book we’ve been dreaming of releasing into the world for so long, or we want to paint, draw, make music, or create something else of beauty in order to share it with a wider audience.

However, once we start thinking about making these creative dreams come true, we instantly feel afraid, even terrified. Continue Reading

2 August, 2023 by

The Fastest Way to Speed Up Personal Transformation

In my last two articles, Why Is Writing About Trauma So Hard? and Scared Others Will Judge Your Writing? I talked about writing to heal. Specifically, I talked about the big fears that many writers experience when they realize they need to write the story of their healing journey. The fear can feel so strong that we become confused and full of self-doubt. And so, we put off writing our story, sometimes for months or years, and sometimes forever.

What writers don’t often realize is how writing our story is directly connected to our personal transformation. It’s common for many writers to experience a midlife awakening. This is when a person wakes up, realizes that the years are passing and they still haven’t fulfilled what they need to fulfill to carry out their life purpose. Continue Reading

12 July, 2023 by