We all have good writing days and bad writing days. If you’re a writer who writes even somewhat regularly, you know that’s just the way it goes. But sometimes, it seems we imperceptibly move into a place with our writing when it’s not just a bad writing day that’s getting us down, it’s more like a persistent, low-key feeling of unease and anxiety about writing overall. When this undercurrent of unhappiness becomes the status quo in our writing life, then we feel like every writing day is a bad day.
This can easily occur when we place way too much pressure and expectation on our writing. For some writers, this happens constantly whether or not they’re sharing their writing with anyone else. However, for most writers, this most often happens when we’re making our writing public online, or we’re hoping to get accepted by a publication or an agent. Suddenly, we’re in a position of having our writing judged, and possibly found wanting, and it feels awful.
The fear of judgment is an obvious (and very real) thing for a lot of writers and so, of course, some writers get triggered when they put themselves out there on the internet or submit their work to outside parties, but there’s something else that is ALSO usually going on in tandem with the fear of judgement, and that’s attachment to outcome.
Over the past ten years, I’ve worked with hundreds of Highly Sensitive empaths who routinely hit the burnout wall. The people who come to me are tired, drained, stressed, and overall unhappy. They feel totally alone.
This is because so many INFJ and INFP personality types are constantly drained by their relationships, as well as interaction with the world around them. Even if you love your friends and family, you still can’t escape the fact that you tend to give more than you receive in most relationships, and this leads so many of us into depression and constant anxiety.
Not only have I been there myself, but because I’ve worked with so many INFJ and INFP people over so many years, I know the patterns. I know what works, and what doesn’t work, when you’re trying to shift your life from unhappiness and stress to a better place of joy and fulfillment.
The key thing that so many people miss is that it’s not about changing yourself or your personality, it’s about changing your energy. I talk more about this in the video below:
I’m launching a new video course next week called AWAKEN and it’s for all empaths and introverted intuitive people who are struggling with self-esteem and self-worth, feeling like an alien in an overly aggressive world, and who want to lead a happier, more fulfilled life.
Update: the AWAKEN Video course is now available! You can find details and purchase it here:
AWAKEN Video Course