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INFJ and INFP Personality Types and Frenemies

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often attract people who want to form friendships, but who also give mixed messages. These messages may include:

“I like you,” and “I’m jealous / threatened by you.”

Or, “we’re friends,” but “I want to see you fail.”

This type of “friend” is known as a “frenemy,” because they embody traits of a friend, and also traits of an enemy. The mixed messages that INFJ personality types and INFP personality types receive in these types of friendships are very confusing and hurtful, and we usually internalize the messages and blame ourselves. Continue Reading

19 July, 2024 by

Do INFJs and INFPs Live Odd Lifestyles?

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to be accommodating when young, and then we become more unconventional with age. As we ease into the midlife transition (also known as the “midlife awakening”) we may explore polyamory or unconventional partnerships with others. We also might travel or move more than other people, or live on the fringes of society. Continue Reading

7 June, 2024 by

Do INFJs Attract Betrayal?

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often feel unseen and unheard in relationships. They also share a pattern of abandonment and betrayal in relationships. Most INFJ personality types and INFP personality types understand that this pattern is a pattern that they also experienced in childhood, when one or both parents were untrustworthy and/or emotionally unavailable, but they don’t understand why they keep repeating the pattern in adulthood. They also don’t understand why it seems they actually attract people who will end up betraying them, including narcissistic and other manipulative personality types. Continue Reading

20 March, 2024 by

INFJs and INFPs and False Friends

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types often suffer from the same problem in interpersonal relationships. This problem manifests in the feeling of being smothered by the needs of other people, while simultaneously feeling very lonely and like no one truly sees us or understands us. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are natural caregivers and adept at holding compassionate space for other people. These qualities draw people to us, and many people believe that they have a deeper bond with us than we do with them. It’s quite common for an INFJ personality type or an INFP personality type to be aware that another person considers them their “best friend,” and yet we don’t return the feeling. Continue Reading

18 March, 2024 by

INFJs and Lone Wolf Syndrome

Many INFJ personality types describe themselves as a “lone wolf,” which means their preference is to keep an extremely small circle of friends, and not ask for help unless it’s absolutely necessary. This results in most INFJ personality types being not only self-sufficient, but also hyper-independent, and relying on this quality of hyper-independence to get them through life. Continue Reading

24 November, 2023 by