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Why INFJs Feel Rejected by Society

INFJ personality types have a hard time fitting into the mainstream, and this starts from a young age. Many INFJ personality types do not fit into their peer group in school when they are growing up, and they don’t fit into the workplace when they go into regular employment as an adult. It’s no surprise to many INFJs that they don’t fit into the mainstream, as this is something we have usually already noticed ourselves. However, it still makes us feel badly about ourselves.

INFJs are one of the types who are most focused on harmony within groups, so when we sense that our presence in a group is causing a misalignment in any way, we tend to internalize that and it causes us to feel shame. We feel that we are the problem, and that if we could only make ourselves more “normal,” then everything would be better. This is why many INFJs adopt an identity that is not actually reflective of their authentic self and personality, but instead is a shield and a front to be used in groups so that they will feel that they better fit in with the group dynamic and the group structure. Continue Reading

Why INFJs and INFPs Need an Intuitive Creative Process

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types love to try new methods of time management and productivity, and new methods of creativity. However, most of these methods don’t work for intuitive personality types. Instead, they make INFJ personality types and INFP personality types feel worse about themselves.

This is because INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are very different from the mainstream population, and so the mainstream methods just don’t fit them. Sometimes INFJs and INFPs can take one of these methods and use it for a short period of time, or hack it in such a way that they can make it fit for a little while. But over the long term they will tend to abandon these methods and then be right back where they started, and that means feeling frustrated and alone. Continue Reading

Why No One Understands INFJ and INFP Creativity

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are two of the most highly creative types out of all the MBTI types. However, they are also the two types that suffer from the most self-doubt about their creativity. There is one very good reason INFJ personality types and INFP personality types struggle so much with self-doubt in this area, and that’s because no one understands INFJ and INFP creativity.

The truth is that INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are highly creative. Both types have no trouble coming up with new ideas, asking a lot of questions, wondering “why” and “what if,” and connecting seemingly unconnected things. These traits are all hallmarks of strong creativity. However, for most of their lives, whenever an INFJ or an INFP tries to share their creativity with others, they are told they are doing it the wrong way. Continue Reading

Are INFJs Scared of Power?

Why is “power” such a loaded word for INFJ personality types? And why do INFJ personality types feel so uncomfortable having power, wielding power, or stepping into their own power? This is because power issues are quite common for INFJ personality types. One of the INFJ personality type’s biggest struggles in life is that they are terrified of their own power. The INFJ personality type must deal with this issue and face it head on, if they want to live their best life.

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are two types that feel very uncomfortable with power. These two types tend to equate “power” with “authority” and “oppression,” and they have a hard time believing that they can be powerful, without it costing someone else something. Continue Reading

Why INFJs Can’t Get What They Want Out of Life

One of the questions I hear the most often from INFJ personality types is:

How come I’m always dissatisfied?

Many INFJs feel like they are never content in life, and most of us blame ourselves. We believe it’s a problem with our own perspective, or an issue with us not being grateful enough for what we have. But this isn’t just a “you” problem, this is an INFJ problem.

For INFJ personality types, experiencing a high quality of life is very important. We’re not satisfied with just having a steady job that pays the bills, and sharing social connections with people just because we have a few superficial things in common. Continue Reading