One Easy Way to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition

In my last article in this series, Why So Many INFJ and INFP Writers Have Problems Using Their Intuition in Writing, I talked about how difficult it can be to listen to your intuition sometimes, and how hard it can be to tell the difference between fear and intuition.

In fact, this is one of the most commonly asked questions I get from clients and students. In both cases, fear and intuition feel like a strong urge or nudge to take action or go in a certain direction. Both can also feel pressing, necessary, and very immediate. For those who don’t have a lot of practice in accessing their intuition or listening to it, it can feel impossible to tell the difference on whether these inner signals are coming from a place of fear, or if they belong to that small, still voice within that will never steer you wrong.

This can be particularly tough for writers. Should your character really take that next step in the timeline, or are you just pushing them ahead because you feel panicky about the lack of progress with your story? It’s questions like these that plague writers who might be naturally intuitive people, but are not able to trust their intuition to the point where they can let it lead them creatively.

A lack of trust in your intuition in writing is directly related to a lack of trust in yourself in life. Writing and life are not two separate things to be put into two separate boxes. What affects one will always affect the other. This is why it’s so important for writers who are intuitively centered to give their intuitive skills priority, and do everything they can to develop self-trust from within.

The most basic place to start is learning how to tell the difference between intuition and fear. I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m teaching an online class this May called Finding Your Writing Magic and I’m going to be teaching writers how to work with their own natural intuitive style, how to access the magic in their creativity and everyday lives, and how to deeply connect with their own power in writing. If this resonates with you, then please make sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates on the class.

Please note: This class will contain completely different material than my Intuitive Writing video course. We will touch on Intuitive Writing briefly as a tool, but only briefly. This is a new class with entirely new material.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me here. First day of class is Monday, May 2 so please get those questions to me ASAP. I’ll see you all very soon with the last video in this series, all about how to know when you can trust the information your intuition is bringing through to you.

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer and The INFJ Revolution. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.

Why So Many INFJ and INFP Writers Have Problems Using Their Intuition in Writing

The INFJ personality type and the INFP personality type are two of the most intuitive personalities on the spectrum, and they are also the two types most likely to be creative writers. However, it can be particularly difficult for both INFJ and INFP writers to access their intuition while writing. This is unfortunate, because once an INFJ or INFP writer can begin tapping into their intuition while writing, they will almost always experience greater creative flow and a better experience writing.

The reason most INFJs and INFPs have problems using their intuition while writing—which is such a strong, natural skill for us—is because intuition is not valued in our culture. We live in a society that is heavily skewed toward the rational, logical side of life. Anything that comes across as intuitive, emotional, or vulnerable is feared in our culture, and usually denigrated. Of course, the intuitive side of life is also strongly connected to feminine energy, which is another thing that is feared and ridiculed in our society.

This means that most INFJ and INFP people grow up in a situation where our intuitive gifts are not valued, and they are definitely not encouraged. Instead, we are taught to ignore or suppress our intuition, and to discount our natural creative style, and our intuitive gifts. So, we end up as adults who feel cut off from our own creativity, who struggle with writing, and who have no idea how to use our natural intuitive talent to thrive.

I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m teaching an online class this May called Finding Your Writing Magic, all about the link between intuition and writing, and how to learn key intuitive tools that will help you tap into your greatest creative potential.

If this sounds like exactly what you need right now, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates about the class. You can contact me with any questions here. And please don’t hold back on the questions! I’m really excited about this new class and I would love to answer any questions that might come up for you.

I’ll see you soon with the next video in this series, all about how to tell the difference between the voice of fear and the voice of intuition!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer and The INFJ Revolution. You can get a free copy of her book on creative marketing for writers by signing up for her newsletter HERE.

5 Best Book Marketing Tips for Indie Authors

Marketing is something that can be challenging for every author. There are so many different options, and so many different opinions on what you “should” be doing for success, that it can get quite confusing. Fortunately, the secret to great marketing is not to master everything, but rather to focus strongly on a few key things.

Below is my list of the 5 best things to focus on for book marketing if you are an indie author: Continue Reading

The Not-Good-Enough Hole and Why Writers Are Always Falling into It

Picture this: You’re sitting around relaxing, scrolling through Instagram, when suddenly you see a post from a writer friend: “So excited! Just signed on with my dream agent! Woo-hoo!!!” Instantly, your stomach drops and you feel slightly nauseous, and then two seconds later you feel guilty as hell. There’s no denying it, you’re jealous, even though you wish so badly that you weren’t. You genuinely DO want to be happy for your friend. But if that’s true, then why does her writing success feel so awful?

Then, you try to find something to distract yourself. You check your email and find a newsletter from another writer, someone you don’t know personally but whom you admire. Their latest book just won a prestigious award, and again, you get that sinking feeling in your gut. You’ve been dreaming of such an honor for years, and yet, here you still are, slogging away on a half-finished novel, with no end in sight, much less any awards coming your way.

And again, you feel that awful mix of envy and shame that just makes you want to crawl into a hole and never come out again. Continue Reading

The Best Advice Ever for Writing Memoir

Writing a memoir is one of those things that sounds like it should be easy. You’re just telling a story about your life experiences, right?

Wrong.

Writing memoir can actually be quite difficult, especially if you’re focusing on life experiences that were painful or traumatic, or may even be hard for other people to believe. Much of the time, if a writer has never delved into writing memoir before, they assume that they just need to start at the beginning, move through events as they happened, and add clarifying details for the reader all along the way. Continue Reading