2 Big Ways INFJs and INFPs Give Their Power Away

If you’re a Highly Sensitive intuitive person, you are probably very familiar with that feeling of being invisible, feeling unseen, unheard, and generally disconnected from most people around you.

You’re also probably familiar with feeling like you don’t often get what you want in life, and you may have blamed this on being not competitive enough, not aggressive enough, or not extroverted enough to go after what you really want.

The thing most intuitive introverts miss though, is that it’s not about being aggressive. It’s about the subtle signals we put out to other people (especially when we first meet them) that lead us into giving our power away to others on a constant basis. Most of these signals are unconscious, and we’re totally unaware that we use them as our default mode, so the same patterns keep happening with people. And we keep feeling unseen, unheard, and invisible, again and again, and again.

In the video below, I talk about the 2 big ways that INFJ and INFP people tend to give our power away to others from the very first interaction we have with them:

I’m launching a new video course in just a few days called AWAKEN, and it’s designed specifically for empaths and intuitives who are ready to upgrade their reality and move into a new life of joy, abundance, and deep, nourishing happiness.

If this is you, be sure to sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates and announcements about the course as they’re released. And if you have any questions, you can contact me here.

I’ve heard from a lot of you since I put out the first video in this series that this is coming at exactly the right time for you. It seems that a ton of people are feeling the push to shift their reality as we head into 2022 because they’re tired of living the way they have for years and they’re ready for a big shake-up and something different. AWAKEN is just the thing to get you kick-started on the path.

I’ll see you soon with the next and final video in this mini-series before we launch!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, a six-step online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with writing. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book on creative marketing for INFJ and INFP writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy of Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers.

Highly Sensitive and Stressed? This Is the Leading Cause of Burnout for INFJ and INFP Personalities

Over the past ten years, I’ve worked with hundreds of Highly Sensitive empaths who routinely hit the burnout wall. The people who come to me are tired, drained, stressed, and overall unhappy. They feel totally alone.

This is because so many INFJ and INFP personality types are constantly drained by their relationships, as well as interaction with the world around them. Even if you love your friends and family, you still can’t escape the fact that you tend to give more than you receive in most relationships, and this leads so many of us into depression and constant anxiety.

Not only have I been there myself, but because I’ve worked with so many INFJ and INFP people over so many years, I know the patterns. I know what works, and what doesn’t work, when you’re trying to shift your life from unhappiness and stress to a better place of joy and fulfillment.

The key thing that so many people miss is that it’s not about changing yourself or your personality, it’s about changing your energy. I talk more about this in the video below:

I’m launching a new video course next week called AWAKEN and it’s for all empaths and introverted intuitive people who are struggling with self-esteem and self-worth, feeling like an alien in an overly aggressive world, and who want to lead a happier, more fulfilled life. If this is you, be sure you sign up for my newsletter HERE to get all the updates on the course, and if you have any questions in the meantime, you can contact me HERE.

I’m super excited for this course because it’s based on a live class I did with students this past August and we had huge breakthroughs in the class. I saw so many people shift their reality into a place of empowerment and a renewed excitement for life and it was so inspiring. I’d love for that to happen for you too.

I’ll see you soon with the next video in this series!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, a six-step online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with writing. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book on creative marketing for INFJ and INFP writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy of Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers.

New Anthology of Transgressive Fiction from Outcast Press!

Transgressive fiction is getting to be quite the buzz word for writers and lit nerds these days, and nobody does it better than Outcast Press. The description of their newest anthology, In Filth It Can Be Found, promises the best of the best:

In this volume, you’ll find 20 stories that explore the shadow side of humanity. These stories might disquiet, upset, or even enrage certain readers. Outcast Press doesn’t cater to such cries for censorship because we believe the best art isn’t comfortable or comforting. Reading isn’t a spectator sport. And since life doesn’t come with a trigger warning, neither should literature.

I’m honored that my story, The Harpy, is featured in this collection alongside other transgressive fiction greats like G.C. McKay and Greg Levin. According to one reviewer:

Regardless of your taste in genres, they’re all covered here. From horror to science-fiction to drama; the surreal, the gross out, the hilarious…There are nods to Edgar Allan Poe (the story from Stephen J. Golds) as well as Chuck Palahniuk (Sebastian Vice’s insane ode to pyromania). It’s good to see a large number of female writers also included, in fact they make up almost half of the stories here. Though it waves its transgressive flag high, the collection is accessible, entertaining and always maintains interest.

Whether you’re already an established transgressive fiction fan, or you’re just curious about how to get started reading in the genre, this anthology is a hidden gem you won’t want to miss. You can buy it on Amazon here:

IN FILTH IT SHALL BE FOUND

And if you want to learn more about transgressive fiction in all its various forms, you can check out the Outcast Press website here:

OUTCAST PRESS

I hope you enjoy reading these stories as much as we enjoyed writing them!

Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ WriterThe INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Intuitive Writing, a six-step online video course for INFJ and INFP writers who struggle with writing. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book on creative marketing for INFJ and INFP writers to anyone who signs up for her newsletter. SIGN UP HERE to get your free copy of Firefly Magic: Heart Powered Marketing for Highly Sensitive Writers.

Procrastinating on Your Writing? Why Writers Need Accountability to Keep Going.

Most writers know they need accountability in one form or another. Otherwise, it’s too easy to procrastinate forever and never start (or finish) the book we want so badly to write. But the problem is that too many writers get it wrong with accountability.

The worst kind of accountability comes from writing methods that are too rigid. I’ve worked with so many writers who have tried to write every single day, no matter what, or vowed to meet a certain word count during every writing session, no matter what, and these attempts ALWAYS end in failure. Why? Because there’s not enough flexibility and open space for the writer’s creativity to flourish, or the inevitable demands of everyday life.

I’ve coached and taught writers of all stripes for almost 10 years now, and I can tell you that the absolute BEST way to bring accountability into your writing practice is to choose a strategy that is flexible, actually fun, and doesn’t leave you all on your own. The power of group support is truly life changing for writers! Continue Reading

Too Scared to Call Yourself a Writer? This Is How You Get Over It.

If you’re a writer who struggles with writing, then you know that one of the biggest challenges you face is calling yourself a writer. Writers who suffer from severe procrastination, fear and self-doubt, or who are just in a place in life where the writing is not really happening, run into this obstacle all the time.

You know you’re a writer deep within your soul. You know that writing does something for you that nothing else can, and when you do actually sit down and write, or finish something, you feel fantastic. But it’s the sitting down and doing it that is such a problem for you.

If this is you, then you know that feeling of imposter syndrome. That fear that you’re nothing but a fraud, because you want to say you’re a writer—you know that you ARE a writer—but it feels like you can’t back that up with anything if you’re not actually writing.

This was me, many years ago. There was nothing I wanted more in the world than to write, but I just couldn’t do it. And then I found the key that changed everything for me, AND that got me through writing my very first book, start to finish. Continue Reading