There’s a lot of talk on the internet about tribes. How to build one, how to join the right one, and why they’re so important to our success. But most writers make the same mistake over and over again when it comes to finding their tribe.
They try to fit in…instead of finding the people who are the right fit for them.
Your life reflects what you identify with. If you recognize your own unique talents and gifts, you will create situations where others can recognize them too. If you strive to be open-minded, curious, and excited about your path, you will attract others who think along the same lines.
But when we try to mold ourselves to impress others, or be accepted by a group to gain status, we most of the time end up losing our own center.
Finding your writing tribe isn’t about changing yourself to fit in. It’s about building connections with individuals who honor and support you for being you.
Building strong, authentic connections with other writers takes a little bit of time. It’s not something that happens overnight. And it will take effort and interest on your part. In order to find people who recognize your gifts, you must be willing to recognize those of others as well.
If you have a solid network of writer friends—your very own tribe that fits perfectly with you—your writing career can turn into something nearly unstoppable.
You can start finding the members of your tribe by reaching out. Actively follow other writers on Twitter. Go to events to see your favorite authors and talk to them afterward. Email the bloggers you love and let them know you appreciate their posts.
Take the first step, and make sure your first step comes from a place of genuine interest and friendly feeling.
Sometimes you won’t hear back from people, or you’ll talk to them and find out that you’re not on the same page after all. It’s all part of the process. If you never take the risk of putting yourself out there with people you’ll never find out what could have been.
The connections you build with other writers are like bricks you’re laying down on your very own Yellow Brick Road. You’re in charge of the road, and you choose where it takes you. By taking risks with people and reaching out, you’re putting steady effort into laying your road with the best Yellow Bricks you can find.
Begin building your first new connection today. Think of a writer you admire who you’ve always wanted to talk to. Reach out to ask questions, or just let them know that their work affects you positively. Message that person in some way and say what you feel. Start a conversation with them about the writing life.
Writing is like any other sphere of human activity. We need relationships to keep us going.
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