Eight years ago I joined a writing program in San Francisco even though I was scared to death to do it. I hadn’t written in the eight years before that and I was terrified to start writing again. I had made small attempts over the years—the beginning of a story here, or a journal entry there—but my writing was so clumsy and forced that I couldn’t read what I’d written without cringing.
I was torn between two extremes. On one hand, I was convinced I was a horrible writer and I had no idea how to go about becoming a great writer, or even a good one. On the other hand, I had never stopped devouring books or dreaming about the book I would one day finish. It got to the point where I actually felt sick inside every time I thought about writing.
For those of you who regularly read this blog you might know that I’m into the Myers Briggs personality type stuff. However, I also know that some people really don’t like it. They either consider it a scam, or they’re bored by it, or they don’t want to be categorized by the “type” of personality they are supposed to be.
Regardless of how you personally feel about the system, it does offer an essential human truth from which everyone can benefit:
We all have it. That nagging, whining—sometimes yelling—voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough, we’re doing it all wrong, and we’ll never get it right. I’m willing to bet that even Einstein heard that voice from time to time.
If you’re an INFJ who’s been searching around on the internet for more information on your personality type, you’ve probably noticed that there are a ton of other INFJs out there who profess to feeling lonely, out of place, and on a different wavelength than most of the population. It’s really cool that there are so many online spaces in existence now where INFJs can meet others just like themselves and talk about it.
INFJs and INFPs are idealists, dreamers, and visionaries. This is really cool when it comes to seeing the potential in a person or project, but it can become a huge obstacle when we refuse to settle for anything less than perfect in our finished manuscript.