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Writer’s Block, the Inner Critic, and Limiting Beliefs

Why We Compare Ourselves to Other Writers—and How We Can Stop

For writers, there are two proven harmful effects of engaging in too much social media. (And let me say first that I’m guilty of overindulgence myself—it’s easy to start out with the intention of quickly checking Facebook and Twitter and then get sucked into a black hole and come out dazed and woozy on the other side.) But if you can keep these two harmful things in mind before you even go in, your chances of coming out unscathed are much better. Continue Reading

Coping with Feeling Like You’re Never Good Enough

In all of my work with INFJs, INFPs, and Highly Sensitive People—all of who are also writers and artists and empaths—I run up against the same creative block again and again. It’s the problem that won’t go away for us. The thing that haunts us at every turn. It is arguably the most destructive and self-sabotaging limiting belief in the whole grand universe of limiting beliefs. Continue Reading

Stuck with Your Story? Why You Keep Hitting Walls and Dead Ends in Your Writing.

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For the longest time I had major problems doing revisions on my writing. It seemed so easy for everyone else. Why was it so hard for me? Of course, I also had trouble writing. I hardly ever experienced that state of “effortless flow” everyone talked about, in which the words just magically spewed out of me down onto the page. For years—a lot  of years—I felt like something was wrong with me. I felt like I was a failure as a writer.

Then, I discovered something. Continue Reading

We Are the Only Ones Stopping Ourselves from Truly Living as Writers

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As a writer in this brave new world of 2016 I have a lot of worries. I worry about what people will think about my book (particularly if certain family members or friends will read it and then think I’m a total weirdo). I worry about cover design (Is it eye-catching enough? Does it pull in the readers I want?). I worry about getting bad reviews. And I worry about the next book I’m writing.

These worries feel very big and real to me. Sometimes they even keep me up at night.

But then I’ll read a book by a writer who changes everything for me. Continue Reading

What to Say to Yourself When You’re a Writer Struggling with Crippling Fear

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When I started writing my first novel I was scared to death. I didn’t even know it was  a novel at that time, but I was terrified nonetheless. I was afraid of sounding stupid, of discovering I had no talent. I was petrified that I was being utterly presumptuous by even calling what I was doing “writing.” Me—a writer—what a joke!

But what really gave me that sickening feeling of fear was the act of physically sitting down in front of the blank page. It was so emotionally uncomfortable I felt like I would rather being doing anything else. Continue Reading