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Introverts, INFJs, and INFPs

How Do You Keep the Fire Alive for Your Creative Passion, Even When You Don’t Make Any Money at It?

My husband was just about to push the “place order” button on Amazon when he turned to me, fear in his eyes.

“I just don’t know if I can justify the cost,” he said.

We had spent the past few days going back and forth over this big purchase, but now that it was go time I could tell he was freaking out.

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“Well…it’s just that I’m not making any money at this, so…”

And that’s when I knew we were right back at square one. Continue Reading

My New Book Released Today! Between the Shadow and Lo Now Available on Amazon

I spent the years of my early 20s in Seattle as a raging alcoholic, feeling like I was split between two different personalities. Between the Shadow and Lo  is an autobiographical novel of many of the experiences I went through during those years. The book deals with addiction, depression, extreme dysfunction, and the dark side of life.

Starting today, Between the Shadow and Lo is available in ebook ($2.99) and in paperback.

Thank you, as always, for your support my dear writer friends.

I really couldn’t have written this book without you.

The Pros and Cons of Being an INTJ Writer

I’ve been getting requests for a post specifically on INTJ writers for a while now. The only problem was that I didn’t feel at all qualified to speak on behalf of all the INTJ writers out there (as I’m such a solid feeling type myself). So I recruited my writer friend Phillip McCollum, who is an awesome blogger as well as an INTJ, to help me out on this one. Continue Reading

Why it’s No Coincidence so Many INFJs (and INFPs) Are also Writers

I have a really weird thing that happens to me whenever I receive a bit of emotionally disturbing news. Whether it’s something small (like someone tells me I said the wrong thing at the dinner table) or something big (like getting hit with rejection or betrayal) my system immediately goes into shut-down mode. I freeze like a panicked animal, my throat, chest and stomach lock up, and the rest of me feels totally numb.

This numb feeling can last a few minutes, or it can last a few days. Continue Reading

“I Thought I Was Sick or Crazy.” How Empaths Struggle in Today’s World.

Whenever you read another article on introverts, HSPs, INFJs or INFPs, the same story always comes up. It seems that every single one of us struggled with being called “too sensitive.” I can relate because this happened to me too. But what I find missing from these articles is an in-depth explanation of what that really means.

When someone says they were called “too sensitive” by family and friends it brings to mind someone who gets teary-eyed at sad commercials or takes routine teasing too seriously. This is not what I mean at all when I say I’ve always struggled with being “too sensitive.”

Maybe I should introduce myself first and make things clear:

Hi, I’m Lauren Sapala, and I’m an empath. Continue Reading