Best Blogs and Links for INFJ Creatives

As some of you know who read this blog regularly, I’m pretty interested in the Myers Briggs personality types. I’m an INFJ and I’ve written a few articles on being an INFJ (or INFP) writer. I’ve found a lot of excellent resources for INFJs on the web, but I’ve also noticed that some of these resources aren’t so easy to dig up.

The following is a “best of” list for any INFJ writer, INFJ artist, or just plain INFJ sensitive (which is all of us, to be honest):

Jennifer Soldner offers a detailed, yet concise, list of what makes us INFJs tick. She touches on the INFJ intelligence, problems with perfectionism, and extreme intuition:

Top 10 Things Every INFJ Wants You to Know

You can get the full description on all 16 types in Lenore Thomson’s wonderful book: Personality Type. For a sneak peek solely into the INFJ , check out this excerpt on Personality Café. It also includes a brief, interesting breakdown of some of the differences between INFJ and INTJ:

Lenore Thomson’s INFJ Description

For any INFJ who ever grew up feeling like an alien (again, I think that’s probably all of us), there might be no better summary than this excerpt by A.J. Drenth:

INFJs See Two People in Everyone

Personality Playbook features a great list that describes INFJs in all areas of life, as team members and learners, as well as descriptions of INFJs in relationships and INFJs under stress:

INFJs as Accidental Leaders

However, we’re not always all warm and fuzzy. Personality Junkie details some of the more negative aspects of the INFJ:

The “Other Side” of INFJs

Sometimes we can even be particularly cold about cutting someone out of our life. This is the best video I’ve ever seen that explains the INFJ doorslam phenomenon in-depth, and why it happens:

INFJ Doorslam

Did you know INFJs actually need more sleep than the average person? Here’s why:

Why INFJs Need More Sleep

If you’ve done your fair share of INFJ research, you’ve probably figured out by now that you’re also an empath and Highly Sensitive Person. This is one of my favorite links on how to cope with the accompanying bouts of anxiety:

Empaths, Hypersensitivity and Anxiety

When you step fully into your identity and potential as an empath, you might decide you want to know more about what that means. This is a great place to start:

Resource for Empaths and Healers

And if you’re interested in learning more about INFJ writers and how we work check out my book:

The INFJ Writer

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9 Comments

  • Reply Brian C. E. Buhl 16 September, 2014 at 11:36 am

    I tried to listen to the “Door Slam” video, because looking back over my history, I can see the places where I’ve cut people from my life. I thought I might get some additional insight from the video, but it was difficult to follow. I don’t want to be mean, but he was not a strong speaker.

    I made it about 9 minutes in before I turned it off. From that, it seemed like he was saying, “The introvert internalizes the relationship, and may find fault (disharmony) that the other person does not. The introvert may try to salvage things and make perfect the connection, but the other person may be oblivious to the efforts. This can be extremely difficult for the introvert.” I assume that the last part is: “When the pressure for the introvert finally becomes too much, the introvert severs the connection completely. Even though the struggle has been going on for a long time inside the introvert, it may seem abrupt and surprising to the person the introvert has closed off.”

    Did I get it right?

    • Reply Lauren Sapala 16 September, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      Yes, I’d say pretty much. However, I think he was also making the point that the INFJ infuses relationships with an incredible depth of emotional and energetic meaning, and it’s this non-tangible meaning that forms the essential connection for them with other people. As someone who is highly intuitive, I’d say it’s quite common that this meaning is either not obvious or actually nonexistent in the reality of a person who might not rely on, or even trust or believe in, their own intuition.

      For me, that means I tend to have a difficult time bonding and/or communicating at a deep level with those who are non-intuitive. It can be done, and I’ve learned a lot about negotiating relationships with all kinds of different people through personality theory. However, I’m definitely still guilty of “doorslamming” connections that I intuitively feel will never work.

  • Reply Catherine North 16 September, 2014 at 2:47 pm

    Thanks for these links – they look fascinating. I find it so interesting how INFJs and INFPs have a horror of small talk at parties or in large groups. I always assumed I was just anti-social, until I read more about it and realised it’s not because we don’t want to connect to people, but because the nature of the interaction itself makes us feel alienated and disconnected from them.

    • Reply Lauren Sapala 16 September, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      “Alienated and disconnected.” I couldn’t have said it better myself! Yup, that’s pretty much exactly how I feel at a large party!

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  • Reply Christy Esmahan 18 September, 2014 at 7:55 am

    From one INFJ to another, THANK YOU, Lauren, as always, for hitting the nail on the head with these wonderful resources! 🙂

    • Reply Christy Esmahan 18 September, 2014 at 7:57 am

      I especially liked the one about needing more sleep than others to be so interesting. I’d never thought of it that way!

      • Reply Lauren Sapala 18 September, 2014 at 9:21 am

        I loved that link too. For years I’ve tried to explain to my friends and family that if I don’t get adequate sleep (which for me is over 9 hours) I’m a zombie. However, since most people need 8 hours or less they always think I’m just sleeping too much.

  • Reply Marie Ann Bailey 24 September, 2014 at 5:14 am

    What a great list, Lauren! I went to the one on sleep right away because I’ve always had a problem with adequate sleep. Currently, I’m running on about 6-7 hours of sleep but occasionally I have insomnia. This quote from the article really surprised me: “For INFJs, projects are nonstop and numerous. We generally do not have only one goal nor are we happy working toward the success of only one goal. We ask more of our working memories than do most people or other types because we seem to need more activity to be satisfied, or are burdened with the problems of more than one thing.”

    That is exactly how my mind works. I can’t not have several projects going on. Whenever I look forward to a weekend where all I want to do is read one book, I immediately start filling it up with other things I “must” do.

    The idea that this also affects my memory is illuminating. I have often complained that my brain can only hold so much info or that my brain is like a sieve. When I was quite young, in middle, I remember being embarrassed at how difficult it was for me to remember even a page I had just read. I dreaded being called on because I knew, even though I had read the page as assigned, I would not be able to remember it. I’ve been like this all my life, and the surprise has only been when I actually do remember things that I thought I had forgotten. It makes writing difficult in that I keep forgetting key details about my characters or the settings, etc.

    Well, I’m looking forward to checking out the other links you provided. Thanks!

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