When I first started using intuitive writing as a practice, I had no idea what I was doing. I definitely felt like I was on the right track, but then I kept getting off on the wrong track. I would see very clear images in my head of my characters, or feel haunted by a piece of music or a certain phrase, but then when I tried to nail these things down into concrete form, they quickly vanished. And then, I did that thing that so many intuitive writers try to do when they double down on their efforts to produce, I tried to use rational writing methods like planning, plotting, and outlining in an attempt to get anything—anything at all—down on the page.
Me being an intuitive writer, of course it didn’t work.
But what I didn’t know was that there was a relatively simple explanation for why I wasn’t able to use any kind of planning to coax out my intuitive writing style, and that explanation lay in the difference between masculine and feminine energy.
In our society today, we have put a huge spotlight on the masculine versus the feminine, but what I’m talking about here is kind of a different thing. I’m not talking about men versus women, or the patriarchy or the inequalities that exist in our society and whether or not that’s right or wrong. When I talk about masculine versus feminine energy I’m not talking about a standoff. In fact, I’m coming at it with the viewpoint that both energies are entirely neutral, and both energies have their time and place in the great cycle of life. However, there is a truth we must all acknowledge, especially those of us who are writers and artists, and that is that Western culture skews heavily towards using masculine energy, and tends to neglect the gifts of feminine energy.
Most intuitive people carry a larger percentage of feminine energy than non-intuitive people. This is because intuition is rooted in feminine energy. The feminine is spontaneous, fluid, irrational, and patient. The feminine is excellent at receiving and working with the reality of the dreamworld. Most people in Western culture have a hard time receiving, whether it comes in the form of a physical gift or it shows up as the need to ask for help from others. We live in a society where we are raised to hold self-reliance as a value above all else and one of our biggest fears is being seen as “weak” or vulnerable.
The feminine is all about embracing vulnerability, and cultivating it as a strength.
This is scary territory for a lot of people. It’s still dicey territory for me, and I’ve been working with this stuff for years. It gets easier, but it never gets easy. Becoming comfortable with feminine energy and using it as a primary power source in your creative work is an intense, and sometimes confusing, journey. But the rewards are great, because you end up realizing that you are never alone when you are writing. The story, and the characters, are your companions on the way and they are just as alive as you are. They are just as real and have just as much independent agency as you do.
So how do we use this rich, fertile feminine energy that is in every writer to actually write a complete story—a novel, or a screenplay, or whatever it is that’s been ripening within you—without losing our inspiration along the way? How do we move into the intuitive space when writing, and how do we stay there?
The key is to realize the difference between masculine and feminine energy, first, and then second, to see how those differences are embodied in the way we use the left and right sides of our brain. In our culture, it is very easy for people to move into the left side of the brain. That’s what we’ve been trained to do all our lives. Our schools, our workplaces, our government, the way our society is set up is mostly left-brained. Procedures and processes, forms and lists, and a strong focus on working towards goals in a linear manner. Most of us can easily shift into the left-brained approach, and once we’re there, it’s much more difficult to move to the other side, the creative, dreamy, intuitive right side.
The good news is that there’s actually a much more simple way to get yourself using that right side of your brain than you would think, and also to stay there for as long as you need to. In fact, I got so many questions from writers about this very topic when I put out my last video on intuitive writing, that I decided to devote the second video in the series to exploring a few of the ways to shift into the intuitive writing space, how to stay there, and some of the specific things that can take you out of it and bring you back to that all-too-familiar experience of your inspiration fizzling fast.
If this sounds like something you have problems with, then be sure to check out the second video in the series:
The Best Way for INFJs and INFPs to Start Using the Intuitive Writing Process
Once we embrace our natural gifts as intuitive writers, everything changes. We go from frustrated, struggling, confused writers who can’t seem to finish anything or who are forcing ourselves to plod through outlines and stories that feel flat and dead to us, to writers who are in love with writing again and can’t wait to sit down at the page and commune with our characters. This CAN happen. I’ve seen it with my own eyes with tons of my own clients.
It is possible, you just have to take the leap.
Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Revolution, a guide to identifying and dissolving the roadblocks that hold back INFJs, INFPs, HSPs, and empaths from finding and living their life purpose, and The INFJ Writer, a writing guide made specifically for sensitive intuitive writers.